Oh So Now You A Fan?

This past weekend was the first weekend of the NFL Playoffs. The Wild Card games were played, and four losses happened. One just happened to be my team, the Atlanta Falcons. Anybody that knows me knows that I am a die hard Falcons fan and will be til the day I die. Even though I am not originally from Atlanta, I have always been a fan of the Red and Black. My very first football game was the Falcons against the Detroit Lions in the Pontiac Silverdome when I was in the 4th grade, and the Falcons kicked ass. I never forgot that memory when I moved to Atlanta a year or so later, and I have always cheered for my boys since then. According to some people, I shouldn't be a Falcons fan. I shouldn't be a fan because I'm not from Atlanta originally. I shouldn't be a fan because they suck. I shouldn't be a fan because they are just not the team that is going to do it. I have heard stats, moments, and observations that have been used in arguments to why my team is just not the team to cheer for. Make no mistake about it, I cheer for a true underdog at times, and you know what? That will NEVER change. Yes I love my boys, and I refuse to be a all-of-a-sudden die hard fan of any other PERIOD! Yes there are other teams that get my support every once in a while, and there are other teams that I enjoy watching, but the only team that I am a true blue fan of is the Falcons and a couple of college teams, the Michigan Wolverines and the GA Southern Eagles. What does this mean? These are the only teams that ignite an emotion in me when I watch them play and they are mentioned. Everybody is entitled to their opinion, and you don't have to cheer for my team, but don't be a bandwagoner. What do I mean? Don't be a fan of one team and when they don't do what you want, i.e. make it to the playoffs or win a certain amount of games, you ain't a fan no more and become a huge and unprecedented fan of another. Really? You just a fan for them because they winning. You ain't fooling me. I know die hard fans of teams that have had it hard all season, and they ain't walking around deciding that another team is now "their team". Don't understand what I'm saying? I will use the game from Sunday. I haven't seen so many people that were all-of-a-sudden Giants fans until Sunday. I'm not just talking about the people that cheer for the team because they like them. No I mean these people have gone as far as to sit there and claim them as "their team," posting their team logo as a profile picture and putting up statuses and all in my face talking shit. I know bandwagoners, and that shit ain't cool. Their opinion matters less because I know they wasn't a fan of the team that they are defending so fucken hard last week but they are this week. Get the fuck outta here! And then I was told that I need to change teams because mines suck. I take this as just trash talk coming from another football fan, and I respected and joked with him and talked shit back as well. That is what sports fans do, if you are a real sports fan. Don't talk shit to me when I know you don't watch football at all. Your opinion does not matter at all. I mean I don't give a fuck what you have to say because I know you wasn't watching until my team hit the screen and you just trying to piss me off. You headed down the right road. Don't be a fan when the playoffs come around. I know people that talk shit all year but won't sit down to watch one game until playoffs come and then don't even watch all of that. Really mutha fucka? Sit yo ass down. To all the women out there that thinks it is okay to be a fan of football around playoff time because yo man or the one you want is watching, sit yo ass down. That shit ain't attractive, and he can see right through yo bullshit. I hang around real fans that are watching and can follow the game fairly well, and yes they have a team they are fans of. Guess what? They are not all male, so please don't tell me I'm one of those chicks that don't know what the fuck is going on but is watching because I know men love it. I'm not. I may not know stats by heart and all that, but I am a football fan, and I love it. If I could find out when the tryouts are for a women's league, I would try and play. No bullshit. Don't be a fan out of no where, and don't pick your teams because of records. If your team has a losing record that year, don't move to one with a winning record and keep changing because the team you picked loses. Man you are an embarrassment to sports fans everywhere. Oh and this goes for any sport, even though the only sport I have a team for is football. Falcons fan. Georgia Southern Eagles fan. Michigan Wolverines fan. That is all. I cheer for other teams at times, but when it comes down to playing my team, they take a backseat quick. I have good sportsmanship for those that also exhibit good sportsmanship. I know bandwagonersBandwagoner. I told him not to talk to me unless it has to do with work. Can't deal with that fuckery. I am willing to talk shit all day with real sports fans, even if I am pissed after a loss. It is all fun and games when you talking about your team, but if you just hating and just want to see my team lose for no fucken reason, shut the fuck up. Also, don't be like "yeah I'm behind this team" one day and then be like "yeah I am definitely with such and such" because yo team didn't get the job done. That's bullshit. I have decided to watch the rest of the playoffs here and there, and I do enjoy watching the Ravens play, but make no mistake about it. I am only a fan of the Falcons when it comes to professional football, period. If you wasn't a fan before, don't be a fan now. If you decide to do that shit, don't talk to me about it because I will point that out to you. It's whatever though. Do you. Just don't do that shit around me. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Age and Maturity Are Not on the Same Page

Hello everyone. Sigh...I take a deep breath because I really need to calm my nerves a little bit before I start this post out. (takes deep breath) Okay, I can do this.

People of the world that have decided to read this, I have taken it upon myself to bring up something that has been said to me and others on numerous occasions for numerous reasons. Maturity is supposed to increase and grow along with age, but this is only in a perfect world. In reality, we all know the truth, and the truth is that maturity does not increase with age. As a matter of fact, they are not even on the same page. Apparently, women are supposed to mature faster than men, but I can't lie: sometimes, I really don't see that shit. As you are supposed to mature with age, I know more than a few people that are older than me by years and are way less mature than myself, and I'm 24, so that says alot. For example, I was asked am I going to stop acting like a bitch and respond by this guy that I have not said a word to in months. Excuse me sir, but you are damn near 30. Is that really necessary? I mean why can't you just accept the fact that I don't want to talk to you and go on about your life? I don't want you, and your advances are not even on an adult level. Every time I read a message from this person, I feel like I'm being hit up by a high school boy. Are you serious? Like stop this shit. Maturity would have stopped him from acting like that, but obviously that is something that he lacks. Yes, I have had childish moments, and at times, I still do, but I have also gained a lot of maturity. How do I know? Had this been a couple of years ago, I would have went the fuck off and cussed that ass completely out for that message. That is what I used to do. Key word: USED! I don't react like that anymore unless it is really warranted, but that is not something to warrant that kind of response. I'm grown. Don't talk to me that way. There is ways of talking to people other than using curse words and yelling. Cursing someone out over the littlest or most obvious shit is something meant for teenagers. Yelling is something kids do. Sit the fuck down, sir. Another example: dude hit me up after not talking to me for a month and thought that I would still be interested in meeting him, like I am just sitting around and waiting on his phone call or something. I have a life buddy, and damn sure doesn't revolve around you. Smh...and he is way older than me. C'mon man! First I get a hissy fit from what is supposed to be a grown ass man and now you coming at me like I am supposed to just drop everything that I'm doing and cater to you? I don't know you! People, if someone you trying to get at don't say a word to yo ass, give up. Let the shit go, especially if you have had no prior relationship with this person, and no fucking does not count. Maturity. If you are mature enough to do it, you will walk away from the situation and let it be. Cursing out the chick that walked past you on the street ain't going to get you anywhere. Sending crazy ass messages to a dude's Facebook is not going to get you anywhere with him. I dislike childish mutha fuckas. People that like making scenes and doing stupid shit they know is wrong and acting out at the drop of a dime. ENOUGH ALREADY! Sorry I'm getting loud. Okay, I'm good. Just because a person is at the age of being an adult does not mean that he or she is in the mental mind state of an adult. I have met a 40 year old that acts like he is 20. Excuse me sir, act your age. People say that shit, but sometimes you don't want that because the majority of the people that may be their age don't act right either. Maturity comes with growth. If you ain't growing as a person, then you are going to continue to act like a child. He obviously has not had any growth because he still acts the same way that he did when I met him years ago. Again I'm 24. Met him when I was 18. I have grown. What is his excuse? Reading this post, if you have read some of my others, then you will notice that I have toned down my cursing in this one. Maturity. I don't have to talk this way, but if you know me, then you know this is how I speak. It's me. Yeah you can do you, but you have to know how to react to situations and how to deal with certain things in an adult matter if you are of adult age. Hell, once you hit high school, that is when I expect for your maturity to begin. I'm just saying. When you get to college, you damn sure need to start gaining some maturity. You know when your maturity really kicks in? When you are doing 80% of the things you need to do for yourself by yourself. Childish is never a good look, and throwing a tantrum like a child just make you look as such. It's not cute. It's not attractive. You will not get good responses like that. Act your age. Period. Don't know how to do that? Develop the mind set of someone older. Only around other childish people? Create a new circlefuckery. Anyway, my point is this: don't assume a person is mature because of their age. Their age don't mean shit compared to their mental state of mind. I have met plenty of people that are years and years older than me and still act like they in high school. I'm sorry, but you have to give the fucking bitches and getting money mentality after the age of 40. You gotta want more for your life than that. Some of my previous posts have pointed out immature people. I just believe that there are ways to handle things in a mature matter. Your age does not matter, and the situation doesn't either. Take that into consideration the next time you decide to cuss somebody out over something petty. See how good you feel after the fact. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Forever Lazy, Never Grown

This is my first post of the new year, and I felt that starting it off with this topic was highly appropriate since there is so many people that are talking about what they are going to do this year and what they are going to change and so on and so forth. I also saw a commercial for what I consider to be the most ridiculous and brilliant invention right now: the Forever Lazy. To me, this clothing is nothing but a body Snuggie with no feet at the bottom and a butt flap for when you have to use the bathroom. Oh it is designed to be lazy all right, and there are going to be enough of these sold to keep this product going for a while, but I am fully against buying and owning one of these. I will not be giving it as a gift, I will not be having on in my closet, and I will not be talking to anybody that decides having one of these is okay. Why? Because being lazy is unacceptable, period. I don't care how old you are. Once you become of age to do things for yourself and you have the mental and physical capability to do so, then being lazy is not tolerated. Now, lounging around on your off day or down time is one thing. That is not being lazy. That is relaxing. Vacation time is not being lazy. It is used to relax and rest plus engage in activities that cannot be done during the regular routine. Again, not being lazy. Now, for those that do nothing with their day but sit around and lounge and do nothing productive or of any importance to help or contribute to their situation, they are lazy. Play PlayStation all day every day? Lazy. Always downtown hanging out with no job or school going on? Lazy. Don't even have a side hustle to make money or doing anything to better yourself? LAZY! Yes I said it, and I will say it again. Nobody around me is lazy by any means. Everybody around me works, goes to school, does both, or is trying to do one or the other. Hell I have people around me that are not doing either one and is trying to do both. They still get money. They still do things that are productive. They still take care of themselves to make their situation better and strive to have and do more than what they already have going on. They have goals, dreams, and plans with the ambition to get shit done and do things that they want to do plus the motivation to get up and try to get it done and executed. These are the type of people that I know and surround myself with. I can't stand a lazy mutha fucka for anything in the world. I really can't. Please do not tell me you are a grown ass anything and you don't have shit going on in life. Don't work. Don't go to school. No part time. No side hustle. Nothing? Nah nigga you ain't grown. I will admit that I have just gotten my own health insurance, but that was the last connecting link to my parents. Yes I have the right to say that I'm grown. I have a degree. I have a full time job. I pay rent. I pay bills. I buy the things that I need to survive and find my own way around, but I am not afraid to ask for help when I need it. If I can get it done on my own, I do. What constitutes being grown? In my opinion, it is taking care of yourself if you have the mental and physical ability to do so and not being afraid to ask for help when you need it, to do a good 50-75% for yourself by yourself. That is being grown. We all need help sometimes, and there is nothing wrong with it, but if you looking for a handout, then that is when all this grown shit goes out the window. Ain't nothing in life free, and nothing is going to be handed to you. You got to work for what you want, and sitting on your ass and doing nothing is not the way to get it. You better lit that fire under yo ass and get to it. Ladies and gentlemen that are out there looking for somebody to take care of them, please cut that out. Idk why some people think that finding a significant other to take care of them is the way to live life. No that will not work, and even if you do find somebody to do so, you better not be a lazy mutha fucka for too long because they will get tired of yo ass and leave for someone more productive unless they are just that deseprate. Oh I do not play that shit. I don't help those that don't help themselves. I just don't unless I care that much and they do not have the capability to do something themselves. Other than that, I have nothing for ya. Guess who don't give a fuck? My point is don't be a lazy mutha fucka. It's unattractive, and nobody wants to put up with that. The only people that deal with lazy mutha fuckas for long periods of time are people with large amounts of sympathy and other lazy people. Yeah and even they get tired of that ass eventually. Like that annoying ass dude in the Everest commercial be saying, get up off the couch and do something with ya life. Live everyday to the fullest, but please take care of yourself and do something productive and long lasting in the process. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Sometimes You Might Want to Think of Others: Consideration

I'm going to tell a little story, and I hope that the person that I'm talking about reads this, but nine times out of ten, she won't because she don't know me. So I went to Wal Mart on Thanksgiving to get a couple of things for my mama before we made the strip to her house. A bag of ice, some hand soap, and something else. Don't remember the last thing, but that is irrelevant to the story. Anyway, I didn't have much, and the lines were not very long, so I got in the shortest express lane. The only person in front of me was this chick in a rolling cart (you know, the motorized ones), and I thought she was just going to put her stuff up on the counter, pay, and leave. I was like cool, she ain't going to be here long. I didn't know that she was going to be going through like 20 kids' outfits and asking the cashier how much shit is and why you can't buy it as one and what her total is after each one and picking through the shit, etc., etc. She even went as far as to ask the cashier if there were any other stores open like Ross or Marshalls. Bitch, she works at Wal Mart and is currently trying to serve yo ass, how would she know that? Anyway, I stood there for like 15 minutes, in the shortest line now, waiting for her to move, and she seen me and like two other people standing there waiting on her to get out the way. She was fully capable of walking; I watched her get up and out that cart and walk perfectly around it several times. She didn't buy half the shit that shit had and didn't even have the courtesy to say something to me about taking so fucken long. This is way I told this story: I strongly dislike inconsiderate people. I dislike those that do not have any bit of thought of others whatsoever. No, I'm not saying that you have to care for my well-being or anything of that nature, but if you know that you are about to pull a stunt like she did, at least let me go in front of you so that I can take my minute or so to get everything rung up and paid for so that I can go on about my day. Other people don't do it for you huh? Two wrongs don't make a right, and the people that treat you that way are just as bad. Consideration can be and is defined as, by one of it's many definitions, "thoughtful or sympathetic regard or respect" or "thoughtfulness for others". You see people, when you only think of you at all times, this concept goes out the window, and then you do rude shit like she did. An example of consideration: I went to Family Dollar the other day and, again, I only had a few items. This dude in front of me had a cart full of stuff, and he asked me was I ready to go and is that all I had. I said yes, and he allowed me to get in front of him because he knew that he was going to be awhile. I made sure that everything I had is what I wanted, paid for it, and left. How hard is that?! I mean shit! That type of consideration has happened to me on NUMEROUS occasions. I have done it for others. Another thing: if you see me doing something, even if it is sleeping, please leave me be unless it is an emergency or that damn important to where it can't wait. I hate to be interrupted for bullshit. Please be considerate enough to give me the satisfaction of finishing what I started or at least putting it on hold so that I can assist you. Patience: I'm wearing thin on it. I always strive to be as considerate as possible because I would want someone else to do it for me. Don't believe it in huh? You must be one of those rude mutha fuckas I talked about in Rude Is Never Cute. Let me break something down for you: the reason why people huff and puff and be rude with you when you do something like that is because you are not even taking in the fact that other people have lives just like you do. Most of them are on an agenda just like you are. Hell going home to sit in their drawers and watch TV is an agenda. May not be one that you have immediate importance in, but that is not of your concern. You can at least give this person the right to have that time and be on time instead of looking at them like they are the plague and taking forever and a day or interrupting something that could possibly be highly important to someone else. A thought is not that much. It takes nothing really. If we all have a little consideration, then maybe there won't be so many disgruntled people in supermarkets, clothing stores, and other places with long lines and short ones with long waits. Thinking about others every once in a while or for a split second can go a long way. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Rude Is Never Cute

I was talking to my male best friend, and he was telling me this story about this chick that was being rude to him for no reason. He made an action he did not have to make that was dripping with common courtesy and politeness, and she responded to it with a very rude comment. Okay people, this kind of stuff I do not condone. Please do not be rude for fucken reason. Like, I do not know who put out the memo that being rude is cute and that you need to show that you big, bad, and tough by doing it, but there are crazy mutha fuckas in this world that is making drastic measures to those that do this. I seriously don't understand what you get out of being ridiculous towards somebody that is doing something nice for you or trying to save yo ass. I have an example. When somebody asks me how am I doing, I respond,"I'm fine. How are you?" Even if the conversation does not go anywhere past that, I give that same response to people because they took the liberty and time to ask about my well-being. It doesn't matter how long I have known them. It doesn't matter how long we talk or don't talk. All that matters is that this person decided to be nice and respectful to me, so I have decided to return the favor. If you notice something that needs to be brought to my attention, please say something and let me know. I will say thank you and take care of it. Don't be rude to people that do that because it could be life or limb for you. Oh and if you have a job in customer service, please don't be that bitch that I walk up to in a store or wherever I need this service and look at me like you don't speak English. Don't catch an attitude because I asked you a question. Don't huff and puff and act like you happy to help me. If you don't like being in that field, you need to find a new one to work in baby, because that shit is so unacceptable. I am the one that will report yo ass and have you fired with no problem. I don't play that shit. I have worked with people all my life, and even if I hated my job or was having a bad day or even felt uncomfortable, I give my 100% in making sure that the people I work around and the customers I work with are comfortable. If I'm not feeling well, I politely let them know. If I don't feel like talking, I politely let them know. There is no reason to be rude all the time. That shit is unnecessary. Oh you flexing in front of your friends like you the Big Bad Wolf and nothing phases you right? Guess what? The Big Bad Wolf for defeated by that brick house in the end of the story baby, so sit yo ass down. There is, if not one, a few people that are bigger and badder and tougher and rougher and smarter than you. Just cuz you talk big boy shit don't mean you about that life. This applies to both men and women. Nobody is an exception, period. You want to get somewhere in this world? Being a dick ain't going to get you there. To the ladies that do this, stop thinking that every man that holds a door open for you or asks you how you doing wants to holla at you. Get yo ass off that big ass plastic pedestal that you have out yourself on and just say that you are fine or thank you. Chivalry ain't dead. Men are just tired of giving it to rude bitches. Maybe if you didn't look at a dude with the death stare before he get near the door, he will think about opening it for you. To the men that think this is cool, stop talking to females like they are objects or just down right trashy. Not every female is going to give you the cold shoulder or the death stare if you know how to talk to them. Yelling out "Hey girl, when you gonna let me suck on those titties?" ain't about to get you anywhere with a chick. As a matter of fact, she just disliked your presence even more because of it. There is only one type of female that likes that kind of shit and that is a simple bitch. Being a dick is not the way to get someone's positive attention. I just want to let you know that you don't have to shake a hand or give a hug or talk to everybody that gives you attention, but a simple thank you or good morning/afternoon/evening would be nice. If you don't have nothing nice to say, don't say shit at all, but don't give the death stare in the process. Trust me, body language at times say a lot more than actual words. That saying "Actions Speak Louder Than Words" holds true on so many levels. I remember having to write that shit in third grade 100 times. Been stuck with me ever since. This is my point: when you take the time out to be rude to people, you are only hurting yourself, especially when you do it in front of other people. Politeness and common courtesy can get you a long way, and please believe that the golden rule is so in full effect, and there are people in this world that still follow it. I know I do. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Why I Do This Blog...

I want to explain something real quick: I don't just come up with this stuff off the top of my head. My rants come from a conversation or personal experience. This has happened to me and/or to other people, so don't think I'm just going off the deep end and just running around talking trash. Just getting out some frustration real quick. Everybody does it. This is my personal opinion, and the people that read this are either going to agree with it or they're not, but all I ask is that you respect my opinion or eat a dick. It's as simple as that. This is what I think, and thoughts can be changed like drawers. So can beliefs, hopes, and dreams. I'm not for attention. I'm not out for followers (excluding Twitter, but that is your personal choice to follow me or not). I just do this because I want to. Plain and simple. Don 't like what I write? Don't read it. Don't like what I said? Let me know. You can always tweet me at @ReallyNoKesh. I'm also on Facebook and Google Plus. I'm me, and I am in the process of rediscovering who me is, but I know that this is a part of the creation of a new part of me. Notice I said part, as in a piece. I hope that each and every one of my readers enjoy what I write, and if they don't, then I am always open for comments. I will respect your opinion just like I want you to respect mine. Please let me know what you think. Hey man...I'm just saying...

Cuddling & Affection vs. Sex

Okay, so today's blog comes from a conversation that I was having with this guy earlier today, and we were just having a regular conversation. He don't know me, and he thinks that it's okay to offer to lick my body and taste me. Umm no sir that is not what I want. I explain to him that I don't want him to do all that and that is not what I am looking for, but he just couldn't comprehend how I can want to cuddle and be affectionate with a person and not want to have sex with that person. This mutha fucka asked me to define cuddling and affection. I'm sorry sir, how old are you? With two kids right? And you don't understand what I mean when I say cuddling and affection. People, just because a person wants to cuddle and be affectionate does not mean they want to have sex. I am not fucking you so that you can hold me at night. I don't want to be in a relationship either. There are plenty of people out there that are single but are affectionate. There are plenty of people that knows what it is like to have affection with there being no strings attached. No titles, no dating, nothing more than just cuddling and talking. That is not difficult or too much to ask for. I mean really? Why do I have to explain to you what cuddling and affection is? Why there have to be feelings involved? Better question: is it really necessary to fuck you in order to get it? No I don't think so. You have lost your fucken mind to think that I will buss it open for a few kisses and some arms around my body at night. I'm good. If you are so much of a horny little boy that you can't keep your hands to yourself, then I don't want to deal with it. If I do fuck you, it's because I have made the decision to do so. I'm old enough to change my mind and make decisions. I'm more than a big girl. I'm a woman. It's funny because only females understand this but are just as emotionally out of it. Let it put it to you like this: affection and cuddling can be done without sex being involved. At times, yes they do go hand in hand, but they do not have to happen together. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING! I repeat, THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING! Yes it is possible for a person to kiss and touch a little and cuddle and spoon and whatever else falls under that category without it leading to a butt naked session. Seriously people, if you ain't old enough to separate the two, how will you survive in a relationship? What is going to happen when your significant other ain't in the mood to fuck? Then what? All they want to do is cuddle or be held. You going to go fuck somebody else? You going to get mad and storm out? Be a child about the situation if you feel like it. You going to be by your damn self. All I'm saying is this: I should not have to explain to what is supposed to be a grown ass person the difference between sex and affection. If you don't know that all ready, then I don't know what to say to you. If you can't do that without an established relationship, then so be it. I won't get mad. I won't throw a fit. I will find somebody that is capable and willing to do so. It is not that serious to be doing stupid shit in order to get what I want. People, know what you want and if you know what you want, go out and get it, but things like this are unnecessary to me. There is a difference between cuddling & affection and sex. If you don't know it, you need to learn it. Don't think I don't know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...