One Drink Dont Make Me Yours

Being at Club 426 (I stay in the A) last night reintroduced me to a world that I have become unfamiliar with. The dancing? I danced all night. The music? Awesome. The people? Live. The men? Thirsty. The women? Hoochie but just as live. It was a wonderful night. I had this one dude that was trying to take me home with him. Nah dog. I'm good. Don't even know you like that and I leave with who I came with. He walked off. I kept dancing and enjoying myself. Now the next dude is somewhat the inspiration for this blog post. Yes the gesture of a man buying a woman a drink is nice, but fellas, what I want you to understand is that if you offer to buy a woman a drink, it does not mean she is obligated to give you anything. Another dance, a date, some conversation, nothing. She ain't gotta do shit for you. If she is a random person who you never met in life, the chances of you getting anything out of her after buying that $8 cranberry juice and vodka or that $3 bottle of water is slim to none. Just letting you know that spending money don't entitle you to shit. I ain't yo girl. I'm not yo wife. I ain't the mother of yo kids. I don't sign yo checks or make your money. What the fuck makes you think that buying me a drink will get me to buss it open? Whoa dude. Let me stop laughing at yo ridiculous ass for thinking that I am that simple. Lost yo fucken mind along with yo common sense. To the females that is that simple to buss down, thank you for creating this mindset for bitch niggas and stalkers to love by. No I am not talking to the ones that have accepted a drink. Ain't nothing wrong with saying yes to free shit. I am talking to the ones that will go home with and fuck this dude or female that has brought them this drink because of that reason. These the same bitches that are fucking for subway sandwiches and new outfits. What the fuck is wrong wit you? This don't apply if you know this person. It does when this person is random. Its a drink. Most of the time, the shit you buy is the same drink you drink at home. Oh and please don't think offering me a drink is gonna impress me. Sorry sir or ma'am that wont cut it. Take note: if you buy me a drink 99.99% of the time I will turn it down. If I don't just know even if I know you I leave with who I came with so don't get your hopes up. This is just some more club etiquette to think about before you get your feelings hurt over a ridiculous expectation. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

The Period...Fuck It!

Today, I seen the same signs that I see every month. The slight pink that shows up that lets me know that Aunt Flow is coming to visit. Bitch. Wanna know who Aunt Flow is? For those that have not figured it out by now it is my period, my cycle, the rag, whatever the fuck you want to call it. Why am I sitting here about to go off about something that is natural and has been happening since I was 12? Because it just brings me pain, moodiness, and occasionally fucks up my clothes. That's why. FUCK A MENSTRUAL CYCLE! Yeah I said it and I mean every word of that shit. Men stop telling women that they will be all right when they are having cramps. Until you know what a menstrual cramp is like, you have no right to tell a female it ain't that bad. Let's see y'all do this shit month in month out for decades. Wouldn't last two days on a cycle. Yeah I said it. This is one thing that I believe all women agree on. PERIODS ARE THE WORST! I am 25 years old and been going through this shit for the past 13 years. To this day, every time my period is showing signs of showing up, I am already pissed the fuck off. I have been through four different emotions in the past three hours. Who the fuck lives like this? UGH! Complete bullshit. And then there's the cramps. I have seen women double over and look like their uterus is trying to eat through their bodies because the cramps are so bad. My cramps put me out of commission. Its bad enough the cycle is halting my sex life in a major way but for the first couple of days or so I have to deal with pain too? What the FUCK man? There is nothing that can really be done about having this shit every month except have my uterus cut out, get pregnant (which I have heard that some women still have a period), or take pills specialized to halt this kind of things. Even though I despise being on it, I am perfectly fine with the purpose of a menstrual cycle. Oh and supposed to be grown ass men, if I hear one more of you say eww when a chick is talking about this shit or tells you she is on it, I want to personally slap the taste out your mouth. Every woman goes through this every month once a month, sometimes twice...GET OVER IT! What is the point of this blog? To express my hatred for my cycle. I hate it. Plain and simple. If there was a way for me to have done what a period does and not have to go through the bleeding the cramps and the fuck up of emotion, I would be much happier with life. Since there isn't, I will continue to take on bitch every time this fucken few days comes along. So aggravating. Smh. Hey man...I'm just saying...

Dress Attire

The discussion that has been had amongst friends, both young and old, is what is wrong with people and the way they dress these days. Some of this stuff that is out there is just that, out there. What I am wondering about is what's up with these females that believe wearing something two sizes too small from them is okay and these dudes that believe that sagging skinny jeans is the way to go with their wardrobe. I mean seriously? A dude tried to talk to me wearing skinny jeans and I thought it was horrid. I laughed at him and kept it moving. Women: we have to do better with the fit of our colthing. Yes something can fit without being tight. I mean really though? If it is clear that you are not a size 12, don't put on that when you know you are a 18. We see you and we know that ain't right. Oh and just because it is in your size don't mean it look good on you. I really get irked when I see muffin tops and incorrect usage of clothes. Its not attarctive. Males: if I can see yo draws, I will refrain from giving you attention. That is not the move. I'm too old to think that is even remotely cute. Also, skinny jeans are not to be worn by any male PERIOD! I don't care what you tell me or how much many and fame you got. Its not cool. And yes I can tell the difference between straight leg and skinny baby. You ain't fooling anybody. To both sexes: if you look in the mirror and something doesn't seem right, make a change or ask a friend. Strong word of advice: please let your friends know when something does not look right on them. It is not okay to let your friends walk around looking all kinds of wrong period. Yes feelings might get hurt but at least they will not be embarrassed. Trust me when I say I will not go anywhere with anybody if I feel their outfit is not working. Oh and stop wearing your pajamas to the store. I don't give a fuck how long you gonna be in there. Put some damn clothes on or don't walk out the door unless you driving and don't plan to get out the car. Dress according to the weather. If it is February and it is 80° (yes this is possible) it is okay to dress accordingly, but please don't have on shorts in 50° weather with wind chills. Yeah I have seen it. Fellas, sagging shorts DOES NOT substitute for pants. I swear that irks me to the fullest. Putting your hands in your shirt does not substitute for a coat. Check weather reports as often as you can people and always be prepared for the unexpected because sometimes these weather people be wrong as shit. Am I saying carry a jacket around in the summer time? No but you might want to have some sort of rain gear in the case of unexpected showers. I know an umbrella goes everywhere I go. Dress for the occasion. A freak'em dress to the movies is just as wrong as a T-shirt and shorts to a job interview. Yes I have seen both and worse. Oh you thought I forgot about kids? Not by a long shot. Parents, dress your children correctly and in the right stuff. Your child or children needs to look as good as you or better. I want to sleep the shit out of these people I see with their kids looking ridiculous but they look as if they are fresh off a photo shoot. Really though? Somebody please pass me the number to DFACS. I can't take it. That doesn't irk me. That pisses me off. Also, let yo kids be kids and be themselves, but please make them dress for the weather and for the activities they are going to engage in as well. I am not a parent. This is true, but I know what is right and what is wrong on a child. It doesn't take having one to see that. I used to be a baby, a child, a tween, and a teenager. I am not just saying these things people. This is not coming from just anywhere and none of this has been fabricated so that I can make my point. To that chick that walked into that juniors store and said they are discriminating because there was nothing there in your size, this is dedicated to you. Please go shop somehwere that carries your correct size and stop trying to fit into a size you ain't worn since 5th grade. I can say this. I have been a size 16 since I was in 7th grade. It is possible and I do look good in my clothes. All I am saying is this: be comfortable but be correct in what you wear. If it doesn't look or feel right, its probably not. Do yourself a favor and change it. Please listen to those that are trying to advise you on what to put on, but also be aware of how this person or these people dress as well. I am all up for individualilty and not following trends, but there are some things that are just not okay by any means. Know your stuff people. Don't think I know what I am talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Good Men and Women Still Exist

I tell you, the conversations that I have had with friends over the years have stuck to me like my skin to my bones. For the longest I have heard my single friends come to me and say that there ain't any good men or women out there and if they do exist they are already taken. I will tell you the same thing I told them: that's bullshit. You just have to find one. Single women, I will address you first. There are plenty of good single men out there in the world for you to find and date and shit. No all men are not the same and all are not to fuck and leave. Please stop saying that shit, or at least don't say that shit to me. I do believe it nor do I want to hear it. Evaluate your personality, attitude, and personal beliefs before you give a man the time of day because there could be a good man in front of your face and you would kill that shit with the way you treat him and waiting for him to fuck up. Single mena and lesbians, there are good women out there that are not filled with drama or only want to dip in your pocket. Trust me when I say there are women that are willing to treat you like the king (or queen) that you are because you have decided to be a part of their life. Do not approach every woman with a divide and conquer attitude either. Most women are not with that shit. Communication baby. It is the foundation to everything having to do with significant others and romantic relationships. Hell it's the foundation for everything period. Try to get to know a person if you gonna judge them. Every woman ain't a gold digging bitch, and every male ain't a dog ass mutha fucka. Once we quit treating each other as such, then there will be more good men and women around for the picking. Get yourself in check before you pass judgement and don't believe the societal bullshit that swarms around you. Otherwise you are going to be a lonely mutha fucka for the rest of your life. There are.good ones still out there. They are all around you. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Oh So Now You A Fan?

This past weekend was the first weekend of the NFL Playoffs. The Wild Card games were played, and four losses happened. One just happened to be my team, the Atlanta Falcons. Anybody that knows me knows that I am a die hard Falcons fan and will be til the day I die. Even though I am not originally from Atlanta, I have always been a fan of the Red and Black. My very first football game was the Falcons against the Detroit Lions in the Pontiac Silverdome when I was in the 4th grade, and the Falcons kicked ass. I never forgot that memory when I moved to Atlanta a year or so later, and I have always cheered for my boys since then. According to some people, I shouldn't be a Falcons fan. I shouldn't be a fan because I'm not from Atlanta originally. I shouldn't be a fan because they suck. I shouldn't be a fan because they are just not the team that is going to do it. I have heard stats, moments, and observations that have been used in arguments to why my team is just not the team to cheer for. Make no mistake about it, I cheer for a true underdog at times, and you know what? That will NEVER change. Yes I love my boys, and I refuse to be a all-of-a-sudden die hard fan of any other PERIOD! Yes there are other teams that get my support every once in a while, and there are other teams that I enjoy watching, but the only team that I am a true blue fan of is the Falcons and a couple of college teams, the Michigan Wolverines and the GA Southern Eagles. What does this mean? These are the only teams that ignite an emotion in me when I watch them play and they are mentioned. Everybody is entitled to their opinion, and you don't have to cheer for my team, but don't be a bandwagoner. What do I mean? Don't be a fan of one team and when they don't do what you want, i.e. make it to the playoffs or win a certain amount of games, you ain't a fan no more and become a huge and unprecedented fan of another. Really? You just a fan for them because they winning. You ain't fooling me. I know die hard fans of teams that have had it hard all season, and they ain't walking around deciding that another team is now "their team". Don't understand what I'm saying? I will use the game from Sunday. I haven't seen so many people that were all-of-a-sudden Giants fans until Sunday. I'm not just talking about the people that cheer for the team because they like them. No I mean these people have gone as far as to sit there and claim them as "their team," posting their team logo as a profile picture and putting up statuses and all in my face talking shit. I know bandwagoners, and that shit ain't cool. Their opinion matters less because I know they wasn't a fan of the team that they are defending so fucken hard last week but they are this week. Get the fuck outta here! And then I was told that I need to change teams because mines suck. I take this as just trash talk coming from another football fan, and I respected and joked with him and talked shit back as well. That is what sports fans do, if you are a real sports fan. Don't talk shit to me when I know you don't watch football at all. Your opinion does not matter at all. I mean I don't give a fuck what you have to say because I know you wasn't watching until my team hit the screen and you just trying to piss me off. You headed down the right road. Don't be a fan when the playoffs come around. I know people that talk shit all year but won't sit down to watch one game until playoffs come and then don't even watch all of that. Really mutha fucka? Sit yo ass down. To all the women out there that thinks it is okay to be a fan of football around playoff time because yo man or the one you want is watching, sit yo ass down. That shit ain't attractive, and he can see right through yo bullshit. I hang around real fans that are watching and can follow the game fairly well, and yes they have a team they are fans of. Guess what? They are not all male, so please don't tell me I'm one of those chicks that don't know what the fuck is going on but is watching because I know men love it. I'm not. I may not know stats by heart and all that, but I am a football fan, and I love it. If I could find out when the tryouts are for a women's league, I would try and play. No bullshit. Don't be a fan out of no where, and don't pick your teams because of records. If your team has a losing record that year, don't move to one with a winning record and keep changing because the team you picked loses. Man you are an embarrassment to sports fans everywhere. Oh and this goes for any sport, even though the only sport I have a team for is football. Falcons fan. Georgia Southern Eagles fan. Michigan Wolverines fan. That is all. I cheer for other teams at times, but when it comes down to playing my team, they take a backseat quick. I have good sportsmanship for those that also exhibit good sportsmanship. I know bandwagonersBandwagoner. I told him not to talk to me unless it has to do with work. Can't deal with that fuckery. I am willing to talk shit all day with real sports fans, even if I am pissed after a loss. It is all fun and games when you talking about your team, but if you just hating and just want to see my team lose for no fucken reason, shut the fuck up. Also, don't be like "yeah I'm behind this team" one day and then be like "yeah I am definitely with such and such" because yo team didn't get the job done. That's bullshit. I have decided to watch the rest of the playoffs here and there, and I do enjoy watching the Ravens play, but make no mistake about it. I am only a fan of the Falcons when it comes to professional football, period. If you wasn't a fan before, don't be a fan now. If you decide to do that shit, don't talk to me about it because I will point that out to you. It's whatever though. Do you. Just don't do that shit around me. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

The Video Chick...To Be Or Not To Be?

So I was standing in my kitchen, and I started to think about a conversation that I was having with one of my favorite people. We were talking about censorship and how people are trying to expanded it to the internet. Now, this post will have nothing to do with that, even though it is great idea for another one in the future, but it does bring about something that some women were trying to censor in the past but has had no success: the video chick. Yes that chick that be in the music videos half naked or almost naked and dance to some song that is by the artist, who is often the star of the video unless it shows otherwise. In some instances, she don't even dance, but just walk around without many clothes on. Either way it goes, the song is done by that person, so the video is going to make you remember it, and that is the point. You see people, sex sells, and rather other people want to admit it or not, it does. The dude with the abs out and no shirt on advertising Axe ain't there just for kicks. The sexy chicks in the Go Daddy! commercials are not there just to show that there are chicks in the world. Sex sells, and many people and companies know of this concept. Why is the video girl being pin pointed? She is often an African-American chick deemed to have no self-esteem, had a bad upbringing, and does not love herself enough to put some clothes on and not bounce her ass for money. Now a days, this expands to more than just AA chicks, but there are chicks in videos of all races. Hey man, there are chicks out there that do more than that. How about the stripper that gets completely naked and swings around a pole? How about the porn star that has sex on video tape to be broadcasted around the world? How about the prostitute or the female escort that does those things in a more private life but a public place and more unsafe environments? I'm not saying that they are worse, but often these chicks end up in the videos. I mean some of them are not trying to be models or strippers or anything like that. Some want to break out into acting and one day be a movie star. Some are just trying to make some money to do something else, i.e. have their own stuff and finish school. I'm not saying that I know their lives, and I damn sure wouldn't want my daughter (if I have one) doing that shit, but what I am saying is some women are worried about the wrong thing. For example, Tip Drill. Yeah I'm going there. Tip Drill by Nelly is a great song to me. Yeah I love that song AND that video. Once it aired, there was this big uproar about it from females all over Spelman that opposed the graphic things that were going on. It was so bad, they cancelled the charity event for his sister, who by the way had nothing to do with the video. Well, I didn't see any of those females in the video saying that they felt violated or misused or ashamed. They didn't say shit about it as far as I know. If they did, please send me the articles or videos saying so because I didn't hear nothing about that. Now, I must say that if you watched the REAL uncut version of that video, there is more shit going on in there than a little bit, but there is a reason why the video was shown on a show that came on at 3AM one day a week: because it was meant for ADULTS! These chicks was talking about little girls seeing it. If your 8 year old is up watching shit like that at 3AM, that means something is wrong in your house, not the person that put that video out. There are such things as parental controls and teaching your kids the right things to watch and what not to do. I'm not saying that this only happens with bad parents, but at the same time, there is no reason why anybody under the age of 17 should have seen that video when it originally aired. Yeah plenty of people under that age seen it, and they probably got their asses kicked if they were caught watching it, but you can't control everything your kids do 100% of the time. Fact. Face it. I'm going to get to my point: there is nothing wrong with the video girl or what she does. Why do I say this? These are women over the age of 18 that have minds of their own and know the difference between right and wrong. If they are comfortable enough to get half naked in front of a camera while somebody tells them to shake their ass on a car, then so be it. This does not only exist in the AA community either. There is a united theme around the music industry that tells females to wear less in their videos. So when some chicks protest this, what are they really saying? No, I don't want to see females do this to themselves? Guess what? You can't stop it, and don't protest the video girl and then have conversations with your friends about the porno you watched last night. I mean really? So you support a girl getting butt naked and bussing it open for the camera but you don't support some chick dancing with some sort of clothing on? That is what I call ass backwards. If you don't support what videos have come to, stop watching them. It's as simple as that. There are definitely other channels for you to watch and other stuff for you to do. Being in that video is their job, even if it is for that one video. That is a personal choice that they decided to do, and it should be left up to them if they want to continue that kind of life. Please people, stop labeling these girls like you know them. You don't. One ho decide to come out with how she was bussing it open for that life, and now all of a sudden, every video chick is placed under that umbrella. News flash people: everybody that does that ain't like that. GET OVER IT! Oh and please stop protesting against the artists that do these videos because they will still sell music and go on about their day as if nothing happened. They don't give a fuck about what you think. Yeah you don't have to support them, but, unless they absolutely suck at what they do, somebody will. Don't like it? Tough. That's life. The music artists that have video girls didn't force these girls to audition or to be in the video. They made that choice, and they have to live with it. If they are comfortable with it, then there is nothing that you can do about it. Yes I said it, and I meant it. Worry about how you going to get your rent and bills paid, and stop worrying about how these chicks live because they are damn sure not worried about you. It will get you no where but broke, lonely, and dry-mouthed. Find something else to worry about. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...