Pick It Up...I Know You See It

One thing that we are taught as children is how to clean up after ourselves. Somebody is there to tell us to pick up our shit off our bedroom floors, kitchen counters, dining room tables, and living rooms, just to name a few places. Eventually, you would think a person that is taught this from a young age would make it a habit and learn how to clean up after themselves in every aspect of their daily lives, no matter what the situation maybe. Unfortunately I have learned that this is not the case. There are people of adult age that don't know how to clean up after themselves. They don't know the simple concept of picking up after themselves or wiping something up that they have spilled. Your bedroom is your business, but if you a nasty mutha fucka, I suggest you don't entertain there. If your house is dirty and you are expecting company, please do that person the common courtesy of tidy up your shit and eliminating all smells before this person gets there. If I walk in your house for the first time and I see all kinds of everything everywhere, I am not gonna wanna be there for long. If there is a bad smell, you can forget about me coming back. Oh and fucking? Out the question. A nasty house is the result of a nasty person. How do you expect me to believe that you keep yourself clean if you don't keep your surroundings at least decent? Some people can leave in all levels of filth. That is on you hunny, but I will he the one to ask you questions. Yes I will question that dirty dish in your floor. Yes I will wonder what that is stuck to your wall. Yeah I will ask you why is there a smell in your house. What the fuck man? If it is that serious, you should never entertain at home. Oh and don't just clean up the main place that you will be chilling out and not the pathway it takes to get there. If you know you have to walk through the living room, the dining room, and the kitchen before you reach the bedroom, you might want to clean all that shit up and make it look presentable BEFORE they get there. I don't blame them for leaving if they come in and it looks like there has been a party for a month straight in that bitch. Oh so the kitchen dirty? Nah I dont want nothing to eat or drink. Don't get mad at me refusing either. I seen that roach crawl across your counter and a month's worth of dishes in your sink. Just disgusting. Oh y'all think I am just talking about men? I have seen and heard of some of the most disgusting shit come from WOMEN! That's right, women can and in some cases are dirtier and nastier than men are. When I was in college, I leaved on campus for two years. The second year was horrid when it came to the bathroom situation. I swear we had a floor meeting with our RA every other week about the bathroom. It was disgusting to see women leave like that. I mean really. It was a female's apartment that helped me to develop my hatred for bad smells. I mean if I smell it and it is unpleasant, I start to cringe. I mean I will get highly pissed. Shit is just wrong when you know you can prevent that. Let me get to the point: the way that you keep your place and surroundings are a reflection of yourself. We all have busy lives, and yeah there is going to be some clutter. Nobody is perfect, but there is a difference between a light mess and complete disgustingness. Please don't be repulsive. Pick up after yourself and keep ya shit clean. Hey man...I'm just saying...

Yeah You Know You Said It

You at work. You have been told that it has been voiced that you are not working like everyone expects you to do. Somebody has been saying that you don't do shit but sit around until it is time for you to go. You know this shit is not true by any means, but you really want to know who has been spreading these false lies about you. Finally, you find out who did it. You confront this person, and what do they do? They don't have anything to say to you, and then they have the nerve to be more mad than you are. Excuse me mutha fucka, but what the fuck do you have to be mad about? You the one that was sitting here talking all kinds of mad shit to the managers about me, and now you have the audacity to get mad and shit when I confront you about it? Are you fucken serious? Sit down! If you know you are doing this shit, just say, "yeah I said it" and keep it moving. Of course, the person that is confronting you about is gonna want to know why it is that you are saying this shit, but it is up to you to make the decision to talk to them about it or not. My strong suggestion: don't say anything about a person behind their back that you can't say to their face. I mean, this was some real bitch nigga shit. I mean for real? You gonna lie on me and then bitch up when I come to you about it? Let me inform the masses that I am not talking about females here. I am talking about what is supposed to be a grown ass man lying on a real grown ass man. Word? What the fuck is the purpose in this fuckery? Let me explain something to those that thinks shit likes this is okay: it gets you nowhere. Managers may promote telling on people, but they don't really like it. You will be forever labeled as the snitch, and no one is gonna be around you or talk to you. You will not get promoted or be in the good graces of any manager or supervisor because of it, and they will not be your friend. Oh and please believe if htey find out you are lying, you just put your job at jeopardy if you don't lose the shit. Now, if you are just a vindictive mutha fucka and don't give a fuck about any of that shit, do what you do, but if you gonna do it, at least have the decency to tell the truth. I mean seriously. Why the fuck do you feel like you have to lie? That is fucken ridiculous. This does not just apply to work. This applies to everything in life. It will never save you from anything or preserve a damn thing. If you said it, then you said it. Don't matter the reason why you said it, even though that will come in handy if you decide to explain why you said it. If you doing ridiculous shit like that, then be grown about it and admit to it. Yeah I said it. I did that. Don't be loud about it or yell or decide this is the time to be Billy Bad Ass because that shit is not only unnecessary but also something you don't have the right to even think of doing. Be prepared to have an angry mutha fucka in your face if you running around lying on them and telling on them like a 5-year-old child. When I am angry, I say shit that is utterly ridiculous but it comes out of pure emotion. Once, I was confronted about it. I owned up to it. Yeah I said that. Done deal. That is what needs to happen. There are consequences to this, but if it wasn't said in the first place, then this kind of shit wouldn't happen. Case in point: don't say shit about someone that you don't want coming back up later. You gonna pull some shit like that to anyone, then you best to be prepared to have a conversation later about it. Don't be a bitch. It's not a good look. Yes that applies to females too. Gender does not ever play a factor. Age don't either. This is a public service announcement. Don't think you know what I'm talking about? Hey man..I'm just saying...

Who You Talking To?

I always feel like I need to remind mutha fuckas at times that I am an adult. Its emphasized so much because I truly think that some people forget that I am a 25 year old grown ass woman and not some 7 year old child that needs discipline. I don't need nobody to pull out a belt and whoop me. I dont need somebody all down my throat over every fucken thing. I don't need you in my face sounding like a Rhode Scholar because you feel like you got to prove you ate smart. Guess what bitch? I'm smart and I have a lot more short and simpler words that get the job done just as good. Don't talk down to me. Don't toot your nose up at me. Dont talk to me like a kid. My parents talk to me and recognize me as the adult that I am, and I am their child. I expect the same from everybody else. Recognize the fact that you are not only talking to an adult but a semi civilized one at that. Adding in my credentials is only necessary when talking to people that feel they need a reason to treat you differently. You need a reason to treat me like a grown ass woman? I just gave you one. Either act right towards me or shut the fuck up. I don't argue either, but I do find myself at times stooping to the level of others and acting the fuck out. Just me being childish because that is what that is. Oh you got beef? Come talk to me at a voice that is at normal level. Use your inside voice. Don't come yelling, hoot, hollering all in my shit and think for a second that I want to talk to you about anything. We are not having any sort of a conversation with you throwing tantrums and acting like a 5 year old. Hell I know a 5 year old and she don't act out that bad, so I will not accept that from someone that hasn't been in grade school for more than a year. You done lost yo mind and yo common sense thinking I am going to respond to that. Oh and don't think because I have some sort of connection with you that you have now become my boss and can just demand me to do shit. Who in the blue fuck do you think you are talking to? Take that demand and shove it up yo lazy ass. If you want me to do something, ask me, and make sure you say please and thank you. I am not talking to my fam or my crew or anybody else that has showed me this respect. No I am talking to all the people out there that think that because we fucking or are in a relationship or are over me at work or just have some sort of rapport with me you can just talk to me any kind of way. Umm fuck you. I dont accept. You will get a response from me, but it wont be pleasant. I don't take well to being yelled at, so please keep your voice to a minimum when talking to me. Now I know when I get excited that my voice raises and I have no clue when that is happening. I know the difference between naturally loud and yelling. Don't fucken yell or holler at me. Another thing: I cuss a lot. It's my second language. No matter what my mood is, I cuss. I know when I am being cussed out. Don't think you will get away with that Scott free unless I deserved and even then there are better ways of going about talking to me about than all that extra. I don't do dramatics except for the shit I watch on TV. Fuck the bullshit. Watch ya mouth when talking to somebody because people are crazy these days and yo ass will be the next one on the news because you was all big bad and bold and talked down to the wrong person. You like being talked to like that? That's on you. Me personally, I will pass. Fuck that shit. I ain't telling anybody to do anything. It is just a suggestion. A very strong one. Don't get asked the question of who you are talking to because any statement after that probably wont be too good. Respect is earned, and in order to earn it you must give it. Pass it around along with those smiles people. Communication is the key to this message. Learn how to communicate with others on the level that they deserve and you want them to communicate with you. Don't think I know what I am talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Age and Maturity Are Not on the Same Page

Hello everyone. Sigh...I take a deep breath because I really need to calm my nerves a little bit before I start this post out. (takes deep breath) Okay, I can do this.

People of the world that have decided to read this, I have taken it upon myself to bring up something that has been said to me and others on numerous occasions for numerous reasons. Maturity is supposed to increase and grow along with age, but this is only in a perfect world. In reality, we all know the truth, and the truth is that maturity does not increase with age. As a matter of fact, they are not even on the same page. Apparently, women are supposed to mature faster than men, but I can't lie: sometimes, I really don't see that shit. As you are supposed to mature with age, I know more than a few people that are older than me by years and are way less mature than myself, and I'm 24, so that says alot. For example, I was asked am I going to stop acting like a bitch and respond by this guy that I have not said a word to in months. Excuse me sir, but you are damn near 30. Is that really necessary? I mean why can't you just accept the fact that I don't want to talk to you and go on about your life? I don't want you, and your advances are not even on an adult level. Every time I read a message from this person, I feel like I'm being hit up by a high school boy. Are you serious? Like stop this shit. Maturity would have stopped him from acting like that, but obviously that is something that he lacks. Yes, I have had childish moments, and at times, I still do, but I have also gained a lot of maturity. How do I know? Had this been a couple of years ago, I would have went the fuck off and cussed that ass completely out for that message. That is what I used to do. Key word: USED! I don't react like that anymore unless it is really warranted, but that is not something to warrant that kind of response. I'm grown. Don't talk to me that way. There is ways of talking to people other than using curse words and yelling. Cursing someone out over the littlest or most obvious shit is something meant for teenagers. Yelling is something kids do. Sit the fuck down, sir. Another example: dude hit me up after not talking to me for a month and thought that I would still be interested in meeting him, like I am just sitting around and waiting on his phone call or something. I have a life buddy, and damn sure doesn't revolve around you. Smh...and he is way older than me. C'mon man! First I get a hissy fit from what is supposed to be a grown ass man and now you coming at me like I am supposed to just drop everything that I'm doing and cater to you? I don't know you! People, if someone you trying to get at don't say a word to yo ass, give up. Let the shit go, especially if you have had no prior relationship with this person, and no fucking does not count. Maturity. If you are mature enough to do it, you will walk away from the situation and let it be. Cursing out the chick that walked past you on the street ain't going to get you anywhere. Sending crazy ass messages to a dude's Facebook is not going to get you anywhere with him. I dislike childish mutha fuckas. People that like making scenes and doing stupid shit they know is wrong and acting out at the drop of a dime. ENOUGH ALREADY! Sorry I'm getting loud. Okay, I'm good. Just because a person is at the age of being an adult does not mean that he or she is in the mental mind state of an adult. I have met a 40 year old that acts like he is 20. Excuse me sir, act your age. People say that shit, but sometimes you don't want that because the majority of the people that may be their age don't act right either. Maturity comes with growth. If you ain't growing as a person, then you are going to continue to act like a child. He obviously has not had any growth because he still acts the same way that he did when I met him years ago. Again I'm 24. Met him when I was 18. I have grown. What is his excuse? Reading this post, if you have read some of my others, then you will notice that I have toned down my cursing in this one. Maturity. I don't have to talk this way, but if you know me, then you know this is how I speak. It's me. Yeah you can do you, but you have to know how to react to situations and how to deal with certain things in an adult matter if you are of adult age. Hell, once you hit high school, that is when I expect for your maturity to begin. I'm just saying. When you get to college, you damn sure need to start gaining some maturity. You know when your maturity really kicks in? When you are doing 80% of the things you need to do for yourself by yourself. Childish is never a good look, and throwing a tantrum like a child just make you look as such. It's not cute. It's not attractive. You will not get good responses like that. Act your age. Period. Don't know how to do that? Develop the mind set of someone older. Only around other childish people? Create a new circlefuckery. Anyway, my point is this: don't assume a person is mature because of their age. Their age don't mean shit compared to their mental state of mind. I have met plenty of people that are years and years older than me and still act like they in high school. I'm sorry, but you have to give the fucking bitches and getting money mentality after the age of 40. You gotta want more for your life than that. Some of my previous posts have pointed out immature people. I just believe that there are ways to handle things in a mature matter. Your age does not matter, and the situation doesn't either. Take that into consideration the next time you decide to cuss somebody out over something petty. See how good you feel after the fact. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Forever Lazy, Never Grown

This is my first post of the new year, and I felt that starting it off with this topic was highly appropriate since there is so many people that are talking about what they are going to do this year and what they are going to change and so on and so forth. I also saw a commercial for what I consider to be the most ridiculous and brilliant invention right now: the Forever Lazy. To me, this clothing is nothing but a body Snuggie with no feet at the bottom and a butt flap for when you have to use the bathroom. Oh it is designed to be lazy all right, and there are going to be enough of these sold to keep this product going for a while, but I am fully against buying and owning one of these. I will not be giving it as a gift, I will not be having on in my closet, and I will not be talking to anybody that decides having one of these is okay. Why? Because being lazy is unacceptable, period. I don't care how old you are. Once you become of age to do things for yourself and you have the mental and physical capability to do so, then being lazy is not tolerated. Now, lounging around on your off day or down time is one thing. That is not being lazy. That is relaxing. Vacation time is not being lazy. It is used to relax and rest plus engage in activities that cannot be done during the regular routine. Again, not being lazy. Now, for those that do nothing with their day but sit around and lounge and do nothing productive or of any importance to help or contribute to their situation, they are lazy. Play PlayStation all day every day? Lazy. Always downtown hanging out with no job or school going on? Lazy. Don't even have a side hustle to make money or doing anything to better yourself? LAZY! Yes I said it, and I will say it again. Nobody around me is lazy by any means. Everybody around me works, goes to school, does both, or is trying to do one or the other. Hell I have people around me that are not doing either one and is trying to do both. They still get money. They still do things that are productive. They still take care of themselves to make their situation better and strive to have and do more than what they already have going on. They have goals, dreams, and plans with the ambition to get shit done and do things that they want to do plus the motivation to get up and try to get it done and executed. These are the type of people that I know and surround myself with. I can't stand a lazy mutha fucka for anything in the world. I really can't. Please do not tell me you are a grown ass anything and you don't have shit going on in life. Don't work. Don't go to school. No part time. No side hustle. Nothing? Nah nigga you ain't grown. I will admit that I have just gotten my own health insurance, but that was the last connecting link to my parents. Yes I have the right to say that I'm grown. I have a degree. I have a full time job. I pay rent. I pay bills. I buy the things that I need to survive and find my own way around, but I am not afraid to ask for help when I need it. If I can get it done on my own, I do. What constitutes being grown? In my opinion, it is taking care of yourself if you have the mental and physical ability to do so and not being afraid to ask for help when you need it, to do a good 50-75% for yourself by yourself. That is being grown. We all need help sometimes, and there is nothing wrong with it, but if you looking for a handout, then that is when all this grown shit goes out the window. Ain't nothing in life free, and nothing is going to be handed to you. You got to work for what you want, and sitting on your ass and doing nothing is not the way to get it. You better lit that fire under yo ass and get to it. Ladies and gentlemen that are out there looking for somebody to take care of them, please cut that out. Idk why some people think that finding a significant other to take care of them is the way to live life. No that will not work, and even if you do find somebody to do so, you better not be a lazy mutha fucka for too long because they will get tired of yo ass and leave for someone more productive unless they are just that deseprate. Oh I do not play that shit. I don't help those that don't help themselves. I just don't unless I care that much and they do not have the capability to do something themselves. Other than that, I have nothing for ya. Guess who don't give a fuck? My point is don't be a lazy mutha fucka. It's unattractive, and nobody wants to put up with that. The only people that deal with lazy mutha fuckas for long periods of time are people with large amounts of sympathy and other lazy people. Yeah and even they get tired of that ass eventually. Like that annoying ass dude in the Everest commercial be saying, get up off the couch and do something with ya life. Live everyday to the fullest, but please take care of yourself and do something productive and long lasting in the process. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Cuddling & Affection vs. Sex

Okay, so today's blog comes from a conversation that I was having with this guy earlier today, and we were just having a regular conversation. He don't know me, and he thinks that it's okay to offer to lick my body and taste me. Umm no sir that is not what I want. I explain to him that I don't want him to do all that and that is not what I am looking for, but he just couldn't comprehend how I can want to cuddle and be affectionate with a person and not want to have sex with that person. This mutha fucka asked me to define cuddling and affection. I'm sorry sir, how old are you? With two kids right? And you don't understand what I mean when I say cuddling and affection. People, just because a person wants to cuddle and be affectionate does not mean they want to have sex. I am not fucking you so that you can hold me at night. I don't want to be in a relationship either. There are plenty of people out there that are single but are affectionate. There are plenty of people that knows what it is like to have affection with there being no strings attached. No titles, no dating, nothing more than just cuddling and talking. That is not difficult or too much to ask for. I mean really? Why do I have to explain to you what cuddling and affection is? Why there have to be feelings involved? Better question: is it really necessary to fuck you in order to get it? No I don't think so. You have lost your fucken mind to think that I will buss it open for a few kisses and some arms around my body at night. I'm good. If you are so much of a horny little boy that you can't keep your hands to yourself, then I don't want to deal with it. If I do fuck you, it's because I have made the decision to do so. I'm old enough to change my mind and make decisions. I'm more than a big girl. I'm a woman. It's funny because only females understand this but are just as emotionally out of it. Let it put it to you like this: affection and cuddling can be done without sex being involved. At times, yes they do go hand in hand, but they do not have to happen together. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING! I repeat, THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING! Yes it is possible for a person to kiss and touch a little and cuddle and spoon and whatever else falls under that category without it leading to a butt naked session. Seriously people, if you ain't old enough to separate the two, how will you survive in a relationship? What is going to happen when your significant other ain't in the mood to fuck? Then what? All they want to do is cuddle or be held. You going to go fuck somebody else? You going to get mad and storm out? Be a child about the situation if you feel like it. You going to be by your damn self. All I'm saying is this: I should not have to explain to what is supposed to be a grown ass person the difference between sex and affection. If you don't know that all ready, then I don't know what to say to you. If you can't do that without an established relationship, then so be it. I won't get mad. I won't throw a fit. I will find somebody that is capable and willing to do so. It is not that serious to be doing stupid shit in order to get what I want. People, know what you want and if you know what you want, go out and get it, but things like this are unnecessary to me. There is a difference between cuddling & affection and sex. If you don't know it, you need to learn it. Don't think I don't know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Peer Pressure

Okay people, peer pressure is an issue that I have been hearing about since I was in elementary school. Yes I am a true victim of peer pressure. There have been things that I have done because my friends suggested it...I mean strongly suggested it. To me, peer pressure exist only for children under the age of 15. Once you are in high school, you are fully capable of making decisions on your own. You have a mind, and you know the difference between right and wrong. Don't you dear come to me and say shit about peer pressure. "They told me to do it." And that is your excuse to me for doing the shit? Fitting in is something that mutha fuckas in elementary and middle school worry about. If you worry about that shit in high school and beyond, you worried about the wrong shit. Yeah I did some stupid shit when I was in high school, but those were my own decisions. I know what I was doing, and I take full responsibility for it. My friends did shit that I didn't do in high school. I didn't give a fuck. I stood my ground. You gotta learn to be your own person. Fuck that peer pressure shit. When you are over the age of 18, you definitely can't come to me with that shit. I wish a mutha fucka would tell me they did some shit because their friends was doing it and they carry around college books. Fuck that, they are a senior in high school! I don't play that shit nor do I accept it. Don't you know how to think for yourself? Don't you have a mind of your own? Don't you know the difference between right and wrong? I mean what the fuck? I won't lie. Right now, I'm drinking in the middle of the day. Yes, this is a decision I made on my own. I also pay bills and rent and work 5 days a week on 3rd shift. I'm grown. Ain't nobody going to get me to do some shit that I don't want to do. Peer pressure don't exist once you have turned 15 to me. I'm sorry. I just don't see how you can possibly explain doing some stupid shit because other mutha fuckas told you to. Are you serious? As the old saying goes, if they told yo ass to jump off a bridge, would you do it? I'm just saying. You doing all kinds of other stupid shit because another person approved of it. Why not jump from that bridge head first into some concrete? They told you they was going to go after you. All I'm saying is this. We are too old to be talking that bullshit. People, own up to your stupid shit. Take responsibility for your actions, no matter how stupid they may be. You decided to do it. Own up to it. Fuck what other people think. They don't live yo life for you. YOU DO! Just think about the shit you do before you do it. That's all I'm saying. That goes for everything. Actions and speaking. Don't say some shit you know you said and then try to put that shit off on someone else. Hold tight to what you believe, and yes, it is okay to change that shit. If you no longer believe in something that you once believed in, it's okay. That is for you to decide. Fuck that shit! But peer pressure? You get slapped saying that shit to me. Okay maybe not, but you will get cussed out, and I promise you that. All I'm saying is anybody over 15 need to start owning up to their shit and not use the lines that somebody else told them to. At this point, you are more than capable to make decisions for yourself. You have more than a beautiful mind to think things through and actually do that shit for yourself. No need for the bullshit. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man....I'm just saying...