Time to Leave

I was at the bus stop the other day, and this chick walks up and stands there with me. She looks irritated but I ask her how she is doing anyway. She says she is okay but clearly she isn't. She proceeds with making a phone call. I know she talking to a dude because she yelling at him about how he decided to stay with his friends and play whatever game system they was playing and not walk her to the bus stop. She goes into this spill about how he don't care about her and how he care more about his friends instead of her. He hangs up on her. She calls back (mistake number 2) and goes on yelling at him about how she never spent his money on other niggas but he done spent her money and is fucking other bitches and how disrespectful he is. Tears start running down her cheek as she gets on the bus and is still arguing with him some more until she hangs up. This all happened within a matter of five minutes. We as women have to do better than our emotions allow us to do. In reality, that is the ruler of 95% of our actions. How we feel about shit. She is probably in heavy lust with that nigga, but his constant bullshit is fucking her up inside. I have been there. Continuing to deal with someone's bullshit because of the good times that we have when everything is good and putting up the consistent bullshit that is being brought to the table. Every couple has problems. Everybody has imperfections, or uniqueness to them. Nobody's perfect, but you know when you are dealing with n ain't shit nigga and when it is time to call that shit quits. Yeah you see the signs. Time to call them out. Don't put up with nothing that shows no signs of changing. Don't be her, calling a nigga that is a 10 minute walk away in order to cuss him out over something like that. Be aware and make knowledge of your situation. It is only so long that you can go having a conversation over and over until something small can be become the biggest issue. In her case its time to leave. No one should put up with that kind of shit. I say no one because no male should put up with an ain't shit female either. Fellas, you know she ain't shit if the only time she happy wit you is when you get paid. You know when a chick is after ya money and the dick and when she is wit tiu for you. One thing that my ex's can say about me? I was with them for them. Fuck everything else. Yeah the ain't shit ones made themselves known, but not all of them fall into that category. Just because it is good to you don't mean it's good for you. There should be so much arguing in a relationship. There are better ways if communicating other than yelling at each other and cussing each other out. Please pay attention to the red flags and the signs but be aware of which is real flags and signs and what is made up shit in your mind. Despite what everybody say, there are faithful ones out there, and everybody doesn't cheat. There are still good one out there for the taking, and yes you can do better than him or her. Fuck what they say. Love? Love should never hurt, mentally, physically, or spiritually. If it is killing you to stay, its time to leave. It is going to hurt to go, but you will be better alone and have time to get ready for the next one. Yes this is true. This is not written in a tone from anger or anything. This is written in the perspective of somebody that understands what it is like to be in that position. Yes it sucks, but it can be avoided. Don't think I know what I am talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Clubbing 101

Even though I have reached my mid 20s, I haven't been to a club in a while. I don't really go to clubs and if I do I have to be drunk because that is the only way I will get through it without losing my mind. The atmosphere is ridiculous at timed and I really don't know how to deal with it without a little alcohol in the system. There are different things that I would like to address when regarding the club. For those of you that I offend, please correct yourself. I will go in order of leaving the house to leaving the club. First thing is who you go with. Do not take the people that are just going to sit on the wall the majority of the night and do nothing. Clubs are meant for dancing, not observation. Hit the floor or hit the door. Next is travel and parking. Please make sure you are traveling with responsible people. What I mean is everybody can't be fucked up because somebody gotta drive. Of drinking or smoking is that important to everyone, please take a cab. Please do not complain if the club parking lot is full on a Saturday night. that is to be expected. Either you are going to find a space, go yo another club, or figure out something else to do. Next on the list: the line. Guess what VIP is? The cut line. Nothing more, nothing less. Unless there is a specified cut line, you will be paying $20-50 in order to get in before everybody in that long ass line standing there waiting two hours just to sweat and whatnot. Don't look for any special privileges or discounts or anything of that nature. And then you are inside. Its going to be hot. Unless you are in a warehouse or it is not that crowded, it's going to be hot. The only place you will get air is outside. Men, no means no. If she don't want to dance wit you or turns down your advances, walk away and find another. Ladies, please don't go to the club with the intention of finding yo husband or trying to get men to buy you drinks and blow them off. That is some cheap, desperate looking ass shit. If he offer, that is fine, but don't be seeking the shit. Eww. Oh and don't be surprised if that mutha fucka follow you around for about two hours when he do. Some men are that crazy honey. Welcome to the club world. Now its time to go. Omg please don't not try and bed somebody right after y'all leave the club. At least let them take a shower first. This person has been grinding their private parts all over people and you want all that all over you? You a nasty mutha fucka. Please leave with the people you came with. It is not okay for you to leave with someone you don't know. Ummm can you say set up?  This is a little club etiquette for those that don't know or have it. Pleas use this information wisely. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

The Fuckery Known As Teasing

I couldn't help but to touch in this subject because I get peeved at just hearing stories about it. Here's the scenerio. You get these texts from a chick right. She start profusing how she wants to fuck and all that. She sends you pics of her body and be telling you how horny she is and blah blab blah. So you start thinking to yourself, "oh she wants to fuck ASAP. Yeah I need to try and make this happen." As my best friend likes to say, opportunity. Anyway, you go in for the gusto and start talking about setting something up. All of a sudden, she ain't wit it. She starts talking about other shit and don't want to even fathom y'all actually doing the shit she talking. She just wanted to voice her thoughts. She wanted to let you know how she was feeling. Now you sitting there with a hard dick or a wet pussy all by yourself. You know what I call that? Fuck shit! Teasers are some of the worst people on earth. Any male or female that does this should be shot. Okay maybe not shot, but dammit man that shit is the worst. Don't tease me. If you talking about giving it to me, you better follow through because not doing so will get yo ass kicked. Ladies, don't tease people. I address some women because females are notorious for doing it. Wanting to fuck and not being able to do it is one thing. Talking about fucking and refusing to do it? Totally different. I can't stand even hearing a story about a teaser. Shit irks the fuck outta me. Oh you can send me pictures of your half naked to naked body but I can't see it in person? Get the fuck outta here. So you pull out the penis for me to see but don't want to give it to me? Where they do that at? Either give it up or don't make me want it. I do not encourage taking anything now. Don't get it twisted. If you encounter a teaser, give them three chances to follow through or cut that ass off. Teasers get no approval, no matter how good they look. You feeling on me getting me all hot and bothered but don't wanna fuck. What? That will not do. If you don't fuck me somebody else will. Just know yo ass ain't off the hook until I get tired of trying. If I am sitting here telling you how much you turn me on and what I want to do to you, then obviously I want to fuck and I will follow through. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. That's how it should be. Yeah the conversation of sex can happen and yes people are attracted to those that they can't have. Its life. Don't be a tease. That's some real fucked up shit. I'm pissed just talking about it. Don't promise to give it up and don't do it. Omg those are the absolute WORST! How you gonna give this lip about fucking the shit out of a person and then when it is time to put up or shut up, you quiet as fuck? That deserves an invite to you cut land. Too old and impatient for that bullshit. That's what it is
Bullshit, and I have zero tolerance for that. I do recognize that shit happens, and in those cases, this does not apply. All other situations do apply and should be treated as such. You don't want a relationship? Fuck and keep it moving. If you don't know how to do that, it is never too late to learn. Just don't tease a person. Men that goes for you too. Yes i have personal experience with that. Not being the teaser but being teased. Can't deal with it. Don't be a perpetrator of this heinous crime. Just buss it open. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Stupid Questions?

One of the biggest debates in history is whether or not there is a such thing as a stupid question. Some people would say the only stupid question is the one that is not asked. No that is just an unasked question. Doesn't make it stupid. Just makes it unknown to everyone except the one that wants to ask it. Some people would say that there is no such thing as a stupid question period because every question has a purpose. I only agree with the second half of that. Every question does have a purpose, but it doesn't mean it is a good or knowledgeable purpose. It just means that the question was asked for a reason. There is a such thing as a stupid question.  Asking me am I going to do something that I am required to do is asking a stupid question. Why? Because I have no choice but to do it. For example, if I dont go to work, I dont make money, and if I dont make money, then I don't have it to pay my bills, and not paying my bills results in me losing shit. Yeah that is not happening. Why ask me am I going to work? Unless I tell you otherwise I am going to work. Period. With that knowledge, it has now become a stupid question to me. See how that works? Some questions are asked for clarification. Yes the person kmows or assusmes he or she knows the answer to a question, but he or she asks anyway to get clarification. Not a stupid question. When we all know you know the answer to the question and ask it anyway, it has now become a stupid question. I'll let you know when a question is stupid. No bullshit. If I deem the question stupid, I probably wont even answer it. People think about what you are asking before you ask it. Its that simple. Asking a question that is retarded is annoying to the person you are asking it to. Be mindful of the questions you ask and if you feel it is stupid, at least let the person know you are about to ask a stupid question. Yes I do this, and I advise people to do the same thing. Stupid questions are out there people. You can't avoid being a victim, but you can avoid being a suspect. Don't think I know what I am talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

You Can't Have My Password

Here is something that is brought up when talking about dating and relationships: your significant other either ask you to go through your shit or just did it? They ever find something they didnt want to see? Let me tell you a story: my freshmen year of college, I had a blackplanet account. Yes I said. I have been a college grad for two years, so it has been some years. Anyway, my boyfriend at the time had one too. We knew each other's usernames, and like dumbasses, we made each other's passwords related to the other person. Well he took it upon himself to guess mine and go through my messages, found one that sounded like I had feelings for another nigga, and sent it to me through e-mail to let me know he seen it. Irate is an understatement. I decided to do the same thing and found way worse shit. Needless to say, it was over after that. It was the one and only time I went through my significant other's shit, and I vowed never to do that shit again. So far so good. Reasoning: no one will ever get the permission to go through my shit like that. People, even in relationships and marriages, everybody deserves their privacy. It is up to that person to be an ain't shit person or not. If you decide to date or be with someone else, obviously you trust this person. What is the reason for going through their shit? You wanna prove to yourself that you are the shit or something? When you do that shit, you will always find something you don't like. It doesn't matter how major or minor it is, it always happens without fail. I'll tell you now. Fucking with me, you better hack my shit because I ain't giving you the password or handing you a damn thing. You can forget that shit. I don't give a fuck about where we at and what we are to each other. Can't front: I might show shit to my friends every once in a while, but they dont go through my shit without me saying so. Nobody does. That's how shit is. Don't mean I have shit to hide. It means I love my privacy and no one will be allowed to just openly violate it. You done lost yo damn mind if you think you going all through my texts and shit. Answer my phone? Get the fuck outta here! Don't worry about who writing on my wall on Facebook or what's in my e-mail. Personal opinion: unless y'all are on that level with each other where y'all don't give a fuck about going through each other's shit WITH THE KNOWLEDGE THAT YALL GO THROUGH EACH OTHER'S SHIT, refrain from doing so. All that is going to do is create trust issues and bigger problems. Communication. Can't stress it enough. Please don't put on blast the shit you find if no one but yo friends that helped you look for through the shit or rooted you on to do it know, don't be bringing that shit up or throwing all in somebody's face. That shit burns bridges and shit. I have to admit: there was something that I saw and threw in an ex's face, but trust me when I say I wasn't looking for it. It just appeared. I handled the situation wrong. That is what happens when you do that shit. If you are going to be with someone, you have to be able to trust them, if it is trusting they are going to be the ain't shit person you think they are. Question: if you think they ain't shit, why you fucking wit them? The sex is a ridiculous and stupid answer by the way. You can fuck someone without all that extra shit. I am an assistant coach on team fuck and keep it moving. I say assistant because I know people that can do that shit better than me. Speaking of that, don't be interrogating and getting in the business of somebody you just fucking. Friends do it out of concern and noseyness, and so do family. Other than that, you are just annoying the shit outta someone and abusing a right or privilege you don't have. Sit the fuck down with that shit. Just cause I might have gave it up to you doesn't mean that you can be all in my shit. Hell even if I am your woman, you better keep that shit to a minimum. I dont do well with too many questions. Again it goes back to trust and adds in the element of insecurity. Guess what? Invading and destroying a person's privacy and trust for you ain't the way to go. Obviously if I am wit you, I trust you. If I didnt, it wouldn't even gotten this far, so don't make me question your trust for me by pulling that dumb shit. I ain't wit it, and nobody else should be either. That's bullshit. I hope that everybody takes this from this post: tend to your own shit and stay on top of yours. Be the lady or gentleman that you were raised to be and treat everyone with the respect t they deserve by respecting their privacy. Don't think I know what I'm talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...

Team No Sugarcoating

Honesty is something that everybody ask for. No matter what the subject is, everyone demands some level of honesty from other people. Everyone wants others to tell the truth, but everybody can't handle it. This post will talk about both subjects along with a third. First off: don't sugarcoat something for someone that has ask for your advice or personal opinion. Remind them that this is your personal opinion and speak your mind how you see fit. Don't be rude or start yelling. Be adult about it but at the same time, don't sugarcoat a damn thing. They want your honesty. Make it brutual so they get everything you feel or think about what they asking about. Sugarcoating will not give that person what they want or might even make things worse. Just say the shit, even if it ends up in a sporadic rant. I do it more often than in the past. Secondly: please don't ask questions that you don't want the answer to. I can't stand that shit. If you really don't want the answer to it, don't ask the damn question because whoever you ask is going to give you the answer you didn't want to hear or was trying to avoid. May not happen all the time, but a great majority of the time, the things you didn't want to know are on the other end of those dreaded question. Really don't want to know: don't fucken ask! This is another place where no sugarcoating comes into place. You see, if a person is asking you a question, they want the answer. It is not your job to read their mind and figure out if they really want the answer or not. It is your job to be completely honest and answer the shit. Worry about the other shit later, or don't worry about the shit at all. Team fuck yo feelings usually plays a great game in this one. Third: learn how to handle the truth, no matter how it is given to you. If you don't feel it is the truth, voice that, but don't think everybody is lying to you because there is other people, even if it is just one, that knows you better than you do. Don't ask for completely honesty and then want to snap or flip the fuck out when you get it. That's what you wanted right? Would you rather me lie? Oh you wanted me to tell you what you wanted to hear right? Umm fuck that shit. I'm going to give you what you asked for and what I promised to you: honesty. The truth. Fuck it. If I lie to you, it is going to make it worse. Time to grow the fuck up and take what I am telling you. I will only tell you what you want to hear if I agree with it. Other than that, it ain't going down like that. What I am saying is this: honesty is something that everybody wants and the truth is something everybody wants, but if you don't wanna know, don't ask. If the person wants to volunteer the info, then fine. That is on them, but if you are dying to know, be prepared for what you want and even more prepared for what you don't. Don't ask a person to be honest if you are going to coach them on what to say. That is not wanting honesty. That is wanting to read ya mind and run with your beliefs and feelings about the shit. Guess what? No one can read a fucken mind, and not everybody will tell you what you wanted to hear. Sorry. Wont happen. Yeah I got some work to do in these catergories. I will admit that I have work to do when it comes to this stuff. That's the truth. Always be ready for it. Don't think I know what I am talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...