One Sided Investments

Okay, after a six month hiatus, I am back people. Yes ladies and gentlemen, niggas and niggettes, I am back. The crowd goes wild...yaaay! Okay seriously, I wanted to say something about a subject people talk about and, of course, I had a conversation about earlier. Let's start with the story that got me on this topic in the first place. So my best friend and I was talking about chicks and whatnot. He proceeds to start talking about this chick he done hit right? Well he says to me, "I think she trying to be my girl." My next actions: Smacks forehead. Looks up. Says "seriously?" Yeah I did that. Why do I have a problem with this? She is about to get her feelings hurt, and the only person to blame is herself. Do I give a fuck? No. I am fresh out of those and don't plan to get anymore ever. Here's the thing. All that "oh we should be together shit" when y'all just fucking...yeah don't do that. The only time I see how feelings can get caught up in it is when you are getting special treatment, and no that don't include you getting picked up instead of riding the bus. Just because a mutha fucka decided you didn't have to walk that five minutes from the bus stop to his house don't mean he care about you any more than he did before. When the only thing that has been established between you two is that y'all gonna fuck, where does all this feelings shit come from? Men, you think only women do it? Hahahaha WRONG! Y'all do that shit too. "I'm saying though Keshia why won't you be my girl?" Fool I don't like you like that! Please! Loving these hoes? Yeah I ain't about that life. You gotta be doing some extra special shit for me to get that deep in it. If you gonna start investing your feelings into shit, at least make sure that that y'all are having more conversations other than when the next time you coming through to give up some ass. Yeah that's all you are there for and that is the only relationship you have decided to have with this person, so please dont do all that extra shit when you get shut down. I ain't saying it gonna work. I'm saying that 99% of the time you gonna be the only mutha fucka to feel that way if the only interaction y'all have is the five minutes it takes for you to set up a fuck session and the actual fuck session itself. If y'all have been getting it on for about six months and you don't know this mutha fucka full name and birthday, you will never be his/her significant other. Nah that ain't happening. I'll do you one better. If he/she does not ever mentions anything about y'all hanging out or chilling with each other outside of fucking, not even to go as far as to ask you what you doing with the rest of your day, you can definitely forget about ever getting this person to move things in a different direction. Being a friend is one thing, but when there is a strict put your clothes on and leave policy between y'all after y'all done doing the do, why would you want to be with this person? This one dude thought I had feelings for him after a couple of years of this song and dance. Lmao boy he is too stupid. If it has already been established that all y'all gonna do is have sexual intercourse with each other, leave ya feelings alone. They don't deserve to get hurt because you had some ridiculous notion that you could change this person and how they feel about this situation. Nah. Never that. When its just sex involved, that's all it needs to be. Don't think I know what I'm talking about. Maybe I don't. Hey man...I'm just saying...

Team No Sugarcoating

Honesty is something that everybody ask for. No matter what the subject is, everyone demands some level of honesty from other people. Everyone wants others to tell the truth, but everybody can't handle it. This post will talk about both subjects along with a third. First off: don't sugarcoat something for someone that has ask for your advice or personal opinion. Remind them that this is your personal opinion and speak your mind how you see fit. Don't be rude or start yelling. Be adult about it but at the same time, don't sugarcoat a damn thing. They want your honesty. Make it brutual so they get everything you feel or think about what they asking about. Sugarcoating will not give that person what they want or might even make things worse. Just say the shit, even if it ends up in a sporadic rant. I do it more often than in the past. Secondly: please don't ask questions that you don't want the answer to. I can't stand that shit. If you really don't want the answer to it, don't ask the damn question because whoever you ask is going to give you the answer you didn't want to hear or was trying to avoid. May not happen all the time, but a great majority of the time, the things you didn't want to know are on the other end of those dreaded question. Really don't want to know: don't fucken ask! This is another place where no sugarcoating comes into place. You see, if a person is asking you a question, they want the answer. It is not your job to read their mind and figure out if they really want the answer or not. It is your job to be completely honest and answer the shit. Worry about the other shit later, or don't worry about the shit at all. Team fuck yo feelings usually plays a great game in this one. Third: learn how to handle the truth, no matter how it is given to you. If you don't feel it is the truth, voice that, but don't think everybody is lying to you because there is other people, even if it is just one, that knows you better than you do. Don't ask for completely honesty and then want to snap or flip the fuck out when you get it. That's what you wanted right? Would you rather me lie? Oh you wanted me to tell you what you wanted to hear right? Umm fuck that shit. I'm going to give you what you asked for and what I promised to you: honesty. The truth. Fuck it. If I lie to you, it is going to make it worse. Time to grow the fuck up and take what I am telling you. I will only tell you what you want to hear if I agree with it. Other than that, it ain't going down like that. What I am saying is this: honesty is something that everybody wants and the truth is something everybody wants, but if you don't wanna know, don't ask. If the person wants to volunteer the info, then fine. That is on them, but if you are dying to know, be prepared for what you want and even more prepared for what you don't. Don't ask a person to be honest if you are going to coach them on what to say. That is not wanting honesty. That is wanting to read ya mind and run with your beliefs and feelings about the shit. Guess what? No one can read a fucken mind, and not everybody will tell you what you wanted to hear. Sorry. Wont happen. Yeah I got some work to do in these catergories. I will admit that I have work to do when it comes to this stuff. That's the truth. Always be ready for it. Don't think I know what I am talking about? Hey man...I'm just saying...